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Post by Woody Williams on Dec 29, 2007 11:36:42 GMT -5
This is from Amy Dickinson's Column in yesterday's paper. If you were in his place, what Would You Do?
Dear Amy:
My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. This month she gave me an ultimatum: I give up hunting, or she leaves.
Every year, my best friend and I spend the opening weekend of deer season in a cabin we built on his family's land. It is the only weekend I hunt, and I look forward to it every year. My friend and I don't get to spend much time together, so this weekend has been our excuse to get together, catch up and have a good time.
My girlfriend told me this year that she doesn't want to be with someone who could kill a deer. I tried to explain that hunting helps control deer population in the absence of natural predators and that hunting is a better way of acquiring meat than buying beef slaughtered in an industrial farm and shipped across the country.
went hunting this year against her wishes and killed a buck. She wouldn't talk to me for three days. Now she says if I don't promise to give up the sport, she will leave me. She says if I cared about her feelings, I wouldn't hunt.
I do care about her feelings, and I don't want to upset her. But I don't think I should have to give up hunting because she doesn't like it.
What should I do?
From: Befuddled in Binghamton
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Post by Harley on Dec 29, 2007 11:44:25 GMT -5
Grow some nu$#@ and tell her to get lost!!
Seriously, if she could not accept my hunting then it would never work. I would look for another girlfriend.
My wife tried the same thing on me when we first got together. I explained to her that I was brought up hunting and that I would never stop. She accepted that and now supports me 100%. I could not ask for a better wife than the one I have.
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Post by Hood on Dec 29, 2007 11:44:31 GMT -5
First thing that comes to my mind is a song by Brad Paisley "I'm gonna miss her"
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Post by gundude on Dec 29, 2007 11:45:23 GMT -5
Wellllllllllllllllll, I would help her pack and hold the door open for her when she leaves.. I might even try to generate a tear of sadness as she drives away..... Give up hunting for a woman.. You gotta be kiddin me!
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Post by indianahick on Dec 29, 2007 11:50:52 GMT -5
If she does not support you it is time to say good-by.
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Post by hornharvester on Dec 29, 2007 12:04:39 GMT -5
Bye........... h.h.
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Post by chicobrownbear on Dec 29, 2007 12:37:16 GMT -5
Dear Befuddled:
Get rid of her.
-chico
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Post by jackc99 on Dec 29, 2007 12:38:38 GMT -5
Curious as to what Amy said. Like gundude said I would hold the door open for her.
Jack
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Post by varmint101 on Dec 29, 2007 13:05:31 GMT -5
My hunting, fishing and just outdoorsmanship is me. She has to accept that. Obviously she doesn't accept that of mr. befuddled so, like Jack said, I would hold the door open for her.
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Post by dbd870 on Dec 29, 2007 13:18:22 GMT -5
Obviously they're not a match; break it off and find someone who is supportive.
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Post by deerdude on Dec 29, 2007 15:35:19 GMT -5
shes a control freak plain and simple, he aint got the gonads to tell her to get lost. this old boy is going to be this little girls whipping boy. glad im not in his shoes.
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Post by raporter on Dec 29, 2007 16:04:29 GMT -5
How did he ever get tied up with this b@#$% anyway.
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Post by hornzilla on Dec 29, 2007 19:25:38 GMT -5
If she doesn't like it, theres the door that she came in. When I meet my wife it was made sure that she understood that I hunt in the fall and race in the summer, we get along great.
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Post by allegiance on Dec 29, 2007 21:22:43 GMT -5
You hunted when you met her and she new that. Get rid of her now, it will only get worse in the future.
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Dec 29, 2007 21:32:42 GMT -5
You know, if you do not say anything to her now, what do you think it will be like if you get married? ?? You have to be upfront with her and honest, otherwise you will be miserable in the relationship. I put my wedding off because she wanted to get married in October, and I said no way! we got married in Feb. instead. Just be honest with her.
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Post by TagTeamHunter on Dec 29, 2007 21:33:39 GMT -5
She is trying to change him into something his is not. It will never work.
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Post by indianaboy on Dec 29, 2007 23:19:11 GMT -5
See ya!!! Hunting is part of who you are. If she cant except it she can hit the road. Thats why I found one that hunts right along with me.
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Post by CORNBRED on Dec 30, 2007 0:35:10 GMT -5
It won't stop with hunting!Sounds selfish and inconsiderate...should be a no brainer....carry your ass!
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Post by bsutravis on Dec 30, 2007 3:28:30 GMT -5
Ask her, would you rather me spend the weekend in the woods, or would you rather me be at the girlie bar all weekend? ? I wouldn't ask her to leave....... I'd get in my truck and get the heck out of there MYSELF. Drive till the wheels fall off and never look back. If she wants to stop you from hunting, than that is just the tip of the iceberg of things she is going to change about you.
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Post by Sasquatch on Dec 30, 2007 5:13:08 GMT -5
Pretty soon she'll be picking his clothes, telling him to shave more often, then he'll be changing diapers and playing cars on the living room floor with a two year old.... HOLY COW, I'm married! Naw, seriously, he's doomed to a life of misery with that harpy. If she's that dumb now it's not gonna get any better.
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