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Post by Woody Williams on Jul 19, 2021 12:18:20 GMT -5
1 After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.
2 I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.
3 I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
4 I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.
5 I stopped telling the elderly that they've already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.
6 I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
7 I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say "Thank You.”
8 I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
9 I walk away from people who don't value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
10 I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
11 I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
12 I have learned that it's better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.
13 I have learned to live each day as if it's the last. After all, it might be the last.
14 I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!
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Post by deadeer on Jul 19, 2021 12:38:07 GMT -5
How true. I exercised several of them over the weekend myself. One example.
While fishing, an elderly lady pulled up next to us and struggled to get out of her van. Then she struggled to get out a Walker, then a lawn chair, tackle box, fishing pole, etc. I watched her get out duct tape and repair the chair. When she worked to just get the chair to the edge of the water, I walked over, introduced myself and Luke, and offered any help we could. She was somewhat receptive, but a little reluctant at first. I talked friendly and in ways she would be comfortable in our presence. We helped get her rod set up but found the line was so brittle, I couldnt tie a hook on. So I asked if she minded us quickly respooling it, and she didnt know what to say!
So to speed up the story, we sat around and talked (mostly listened) to her recent experiences and then almost entire life story. Easy to see she was very grateful to have met decent people that wanted to help without asking for anything. We spent 3 hrs BSing, helping, interacting, etc. When our time was up, it was kinda sad to have to leave her, but she promised she would be ok on her own. Once in the car, Luke asked a lot of questions about why we did all that when we went to just fish. I said you'll understand when you grow up what it means to have someone help and be interested for no reason, just to let someone enjoy talking and reliving memories. We did our good deed for the day and surely made Judy's day a lot better!
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Post by Mack Apiary Bees on Jul 19, 2021 12:40:36 GMT -5
Why wait to 80. I just turned 60 and all apply.
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Post by Ahawkeye on Jul 19, 2021 12:49:29 GMT -5
All good advice but I really like #14. I don't have time for a crappy mood even if it's my own!
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Post by HighCotton on Jul 19, 2021 17:57:19 GMT -5
Good stuff!
That’s a reality check for me.
Honestly,
I do some of those…some of the time!
Definitely not all 14 all of the time!
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Post by duff on Jul 21, 2021 19:37:31 GMT -5
Great advice! Add #15 and turn off the news networks. I don't pay attention to the talking heads and it has improved my mood!
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Post by freedomhunter on Jul 21, 2021 21:24:52 GMT -5
Like #4 I usually tip 30% or more now. Cutting ties with idiots is also a good idea. I dont scorch the earth as much as I used to when someone tries to take advantage (blood pressure), but I dont take crap off of anyone. I help people every day so I do take on alot but I know my reward. Dont agree with #15 I want to know when it is time to be ready to protect my livelihood
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Post by duff on Jul 22, 2021 5:37:41 GMT -5
Like #4 I usually tip 30% or more now. Cutting ties with idiots is also a good idea. I dont scorch the earth as much as I used to when someone tries to take advantage (blood pressure), but I dont take crap off of anyone. I help people every day so I do take on alot but I know my reward. Dont agree with #15 I want to know when it is time to be ready to protect my livelihood I let you keep me informed! |
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Post by Sasquatch on Jul 22, 2021 7:18:52 GMT -5
All very good points. I especially relate to 3, 4, and 5. Life is too short to be a tight***, and as for the repeating stories, I just don't understand the complaint, esp. when it's because of illness.
A relative of mine got alzheimer's and his son would snap at him. You just said that, don't you remember, etc. Of course he's repeating himself. Just smile and enjoy them while they are here.
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Post by greghopper on Jul 22, 2021 8:44:32 GMT -5
Like #4 I usually tip 30% or more now. Cutting ties with idiots is also a good idea. I dont scorch the earth as much as I used to when someone tries to take advantage (blood pressure), but I dont take crap off of anyone. I help people every day so I do take on alot but I know my reward. Dont agree with #15 I want to know when it is time to be ready to protect my livelihood I let you keep me informed! Build a Bunker your be a step ahead 😊 |
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Post by davek on Jul 22, 2021 21:54:44 GMT -5
Thanks for sharing Woody. At 35, there are definitely things I could be doing more of. One of those is to just overall , SLOWDOWN. Thanks again.
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Post by Mack Apiary Bees on Jul 23, 2021 19:25:47 GMT -5
I changed a little how I think about idiots and evil people. I call them ESB's. Empty Soul Bodies. If they had a soul they won't be evil or idiot. It helps. I just say there's another ESB and then say a little prayer that they find a soul or a soul finds them.
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