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Post by Hood on Sept 21, 2016 4:56:13 GMT -5
Thoughts and prayers sent.
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Post by bill9068 on Sept 27, 2016 15:48:24 GMT -5
DUCKMASTER, how have you been doing? Been in my thoughts and prayers. Hope all is well or at least getting better. Take care.
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Oct 6, 2016 10:57:13 GMT -5
Thank you all for your prayers and checking on me. This has been one of the hardest things in my life to deal with. I have very bad days where just cry . My boys are starting to talk to me some, but not ready to come visit me at my Mothers place where I am staying. I do try and drop snacks they like off, and try to make sure they are there when I do and talk with them for a couple of minutes . I have grown on my faith , will start counsling on Monday to try and help me deal with my emotions . And started in a Christian divorce support group that helps you deal with the things in a divorce like emotions and depression with scripture. That has helped a little bit. But my wife is so head strong in getting this divorce over with. Kills me and breaks my heart . But God never said that forgiveness was easy , I still have to deal with the consequences of things. But I do feel his spirit and I am growing my trust in God everyday. Just prayers for me and my boys , and that we can get through this and still have a relationship . I also ask prayers for my wife to try and forgive me so she can start the healing process also. I have forgiven her for all she has done for the last several years , so that makes me feel better with God. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers , 3 weeks away from the court date and things are getting rougher for me. But just need to keep praying. God Bless you all , great group of people
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Post by Jamie Brooks 1John5:13 on Oct 7, 2016 8:04:31 GMT -5
Don't be afraid to seek medical help for the depression. God can and does still heal, but if he chooses not to, seek help.
I was 40 and had never known depression; it's not something we can just shake off.
So happy that you are growing in your relationship with God. We'll keep praying.
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Post by nfalls116 on Oct 7, 2016 9:51:47 GMT -5
Don't be afraid to seek medical help for the depression. God can and does still heal, but if he chooses not to, seek help. I was 40 and had never known depression; it's not something we can just shake off. So happy that you are growing in your relationship with God. We'll keep praying. I'll second the medical attention. Depression is a bad cycle to get caught in and we do things we don't normally do
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Oct 11, 2016 4:46:47 GMT -5
Well thank you all for the prayers and comments . Went to my first therapy session last night . It was good and very emotional but I think over time it will help me. I really appreciate the prayers and some who have messaged me and giving me support . Means a lot and helps a lot . I know that God is working in me , and have seen things that my family have seen . And they say things happen for a reason, and I tell them it is God working on me. I laid my life on the table for God, and put all my trust in him. He will direct my life for whatever he has in store for me. Great to have support here on this site, and guys who back up what they say and pray for you. I can feel the prayer and thoughts . 16 days away and will need your prayers more than anything . But I will not worry , because if I worry , then I do not trust God . God Bless All
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Post by Genesis 27:3 on Oct 22, 2016 22:16:06 GMT -5
Prayers continuing. Please don't ever hesitate to talk to anyone. Especially our Heavenly Father.
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Oct 23, 2016 9:16:15 GMT -5
THank you Guys. I have drawn closer to God , and can feel his presence in me. Things have been happening and I know it is God that is talking to me . I pray several times a day to help get rid of my anger and hate , and pray to remove that from me. But hard when she is using my 2 sons against me still, and that takes a huge toll on me , mentally wears me down and hurts badly. God has forgiven me , but must deal with what I did, but he is with me and with some of my prayers are answered , he is letting me know he is with me. I would have never believed all that has happened if it were not God touching my soul and comforting with me. He has blessed me so much , and very thankful for all he has done. And know that he has a plan for me , and he is working through me. I have never been able to talk with my 86 year old strict Catholic Mom about God and all he has done. But we talk nightly about Gods blessings for me and her. I still pray daily for my wife , and if God wants our marriage to reconcile in the future, that is Gods plan on his time. But still pray for her and that she can forgive me at some time for her to start the healing process. I know in order to heal, you have to forgive and trust God. And she is not there yet, for she is the one that brought me to be closer to God when we first met 27 years ago. So what ever God has in store , I accept what he has for me and that not all prayers get answered in our time frame but his. And he has blessed me , because I have been at times lately where I was just about done with things and felt I can not handle this anymore, then he answers some of my prayers to lift me back up . I will confess , God let's things happen for a reason, and we may never know why , but he does. And that I have to throw my heart and soul on the table , and trust God to mold me back to one of his own , and has shown me his love, through guys on here with their prayers and concerns. Thank you ALL, please pray for my 2 sons, Hunter and Holden so they can feel Gods touch and forgive me and we can restore our relationship. And to be with me through this week and court. Also for my wife , I know she is divorcing me, but I still love her dearly and wish she feels Gods touch also. God Bless You All Brian
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2016 9:43:58 GMT -5
Brian,
Stay strong in prayer and maybe over time all will be better. Stay patience and forgiving. God Bless You and all the suffers. Tom
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Post by Genesis 27:3 on Oct 27, 2016 20:00:14 GMT -5
Still praying for bud. Hang in there! God is still on the throne so don't lose hope.
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Nov 17, 2016 11:53:31 GMT -5
Well , Wanted to fill guys in. First off , Thank you ALL for your prayers and support and messages . This helps. Had a major setback last night with my youngest son. Went to court for a scheduling , and wifes lawyer told her I was dragging my feet and refused to look at what my wife was wanting to split. I never saw what she wanted to split , her lawyer never gave my lawyer anything, plus he has been on vacation . So my wife told my boys that and I was trying to ruin her. So the youngest sent me a text and pretty much called me everything and told me I have not been his father for 8 years , and never helped with anything, and that he went to other men for advice. None of that is true, and then told me he never wants to see me . I know he still has anger and hurt , but what little progress we were making in talking just went south. Just when I thought things were going good , Satan just dealt me a low blow. He knows how to drag us back down. So would appreciate more prayers and especially for my 2 sons . I would never do anything to hurt them , and they know that. But they need a lot of prayers , I have God on my side , but they are struggling bad. God Bless Brian
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Post by throbak on Nov 17, 2016 18:58:18 GMT -5
Your only hurting yourself worrying about what you have no control over ,They don't care obviously Your ex or soon to be won't change the BS won't stop My advice Document every thing you spend Pay every thing through the clerks office do everything the judge tells you to and get over it and start over , if you don't you will be miserable for a long time and she will be laughing at you get over it soon IDID
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Post by Hood on Nov 17, 2016 19:27:15 GMT -5
Prayers sent for you and your family.
John 16:33
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Post by bill9068 on Nov 17, 2016 19:57:10 GMT -5
Hang in there Brian, the boys I think are just protecting their mother and do not know or have the maturity to look past her comments. They are still your sons and will be the rest of their lives, they will come back to you after the shock wears off. The boys feel like their whole world is falling apart so don't be thinking they do not still love you. Its a big change for them to see the family separated, give it time. Prayers coming your way.
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Post by Jamie Brooks 1John5:13 on Nov 18, 2016 10:42:51 GMT -5
Time does heal a multitude of pains. None of this will change quickly. They need time and you need time.
They cannot possibly understand and won't give you a chance to help them. As Bill says, "They are just protecting their mother."
Divorce is typically ugly ...for any reason. I lost a lot of friends, and I found that I didn't need them.
You must find a life for yourself. I have never been happier!!! I let my daughter make her own discovery and decisions about my ex-wife. They will see clearly someday.
Trying to force a relationship with them may do more damage. Just let it all play out. Time is a healer.
I can imagine that this is more difficult for you than my loss of Treydog. He is gone and there's nothing I can do about it. You will face the ramifications for years to come, and rightly so. Just accept what happened, try to understand how it happened, and there is nothing that you can to do change it now. Live out the cycle, and know that it will get better. Always learn from these experiences; there's lots to learn.
For me, I allowed the emotions to come and go. I shared them and didn't try to keep them in or hide them. There was a cycle, a seemingly natural one, that I had to endure. I just let it. I am no longer mourning, no longer searching for what more I could have done, or what I did wrong. I even went through a period of anger, anger at him, then self-pity. I'm alone again, and everything I do will be more difficult without a helper, less fun than with my buddy. Brian, I just let it all come and go. I let it play out. Instead of telling myself that it was wrong to feel a certain way, I just allowed it for a period. It passed.
Joy will come back my way, and I think very soon as I have let the other emotions pass without hanging on to them.
I will pray.
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Post by Jamie Brooks 1John5:13 on Nov 18, 2016 11:49:08 GMT -5
God can forgive and forget, but we humans cannot forget. He doesn't need to learn from the past; he already knows everything. We need to learn. You need to learn from this; your children need to learn from this. Possibly they avoid making a similar mistake, or at least be more understanding when the shoe is on their foot.
Our foundation of God will help us through all situations. We can see what he allowed, and sometimes what he prevented. He has a reason for letting us go our way and for steering us in another direction. Good can and will still come from this. We must just look to see how we can be a part of it.
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Post by Jamie Brooks 1John5:13 on Nov 18, 2016 18:33:58 GMT -5
Brian, try to make plans and think about a future. I went from thinking that I wouldn't ever hunt again to planning crops for next year and building another stand in a matter of hours ...really.
The last morning that I hunted, I truly thought that I would not hunt again. That morning was it; I was finished. I had decided that I would not go on my pheasant hunt or my draw hunts. After a couple of hours sitting there looking over my plot, I asked myself, "What would I change about this hunting area?"
This got my mind to focus on something different and positive. What I want to do will not be easy by myself, but there's always a way, and this has never stopped me before. I actually started getting excited about it.
You need to find something to look forward to, short and long term. Just let the emotions of all involved play out and bounce off you. You look to a future; it will get better.
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Nov 23, 2016 5:58:46 GMT -5
So my divorce should be finished soon, I ask for continue prayers for me and my boys that we can re establish our relationship together . Hopefully me and my boys can rebuild what was lost , and move forward in life . I have been blessed with 2 awesome boys and thank God for them . Thank you ALL for your support and prayers . You ALL are my brothers in Christ . God Bless Brian
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Post by DUCKMASTER1 on Dec 1, 2016 5:37:38 GMT -5
Well brothers of Hunting Indiana. My divorce is final , never what I ever wanted , and the pain theat my 2 sons are going through are what I never wanted on them at all. I pray they will heal and the hurt will go away , and that we can be back as father sons relationship. I have grown stronger in Christ , things happen for a reason and sometimes we do. It see the picture that God has painted for us. But I wanted to Thank all of you on here for your spiritual support and friendship that have been made with some on here . God is awesome and works in ways we don't see. As for my future , God is my number 1 priority then healing myself and my 2 sons. Please continue to pray for my boys and myself, as the road is still up a steep mountain , I know God has a plan and can't wait to see the adventure that awaits me. Will try to get out and do some hunting which I dearly miss, only been 2 times , but need to get back out . Thank you all for the comments and Prayers , you ALL are an awesome group of brothers in Christ . Thank you Brian
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Post by Jamie Brooks 1John5:13 on Dec 1, 2016 12:17:30 GMT -5
Well brothers of Hunting Indiana. My divorce is final , never what I ever wanted , and the pain theat my 2 sons are going through are what I never wanted on them at all. I pray they will heal and the hurt will go away , and that we can be back as father sons relationship. I have grown stronger in Christ , things happen for a reason and sometimes we do. It see the picture that God has painted for us. But I wanted to Thank all of you on here for your spiritual support and friendship that have been made with some on here . God is awesome and works in ways we don't see. As for my future , God is my number 1 priority then healing myself and my 2 sons. Please continue to pray for my boys and myself, as the road is still up a steep mountain , I know God has a plan and can't wait to see the adventure that awaits me. Will try to get out and do some hunting which I dearly miss, only been 2 times , but need to get back out . Thank you all for the comments and Prayers , you ALL are an awesome group of brothers in Christ . Thank you Brian It seemed the finality of it was a reset point for me. After 1.5yrs of fighting in court ...and lots of money, I gave up and told her to take whatever she wanted and leave me alone. She took everything she wanted, but still seemed to cause me pain at every opportunity for a couple years. It does get better, and the more we can stay focused on the positive the better it will be. I certainly hope you do get out and hunt. Make plans for the future day, week month and year; this is healthy. It's certainly fine to change a plan, but we need a plan. A plan keeps us focused of the future and living for today to get there, so that we don't live in the past. I didn't meet Ella until 3 years after my divorce. I needed this time to heal and find happiness in myself. Find it in yourself, and then share it with someone else. I have NEVER been happier and more at peace than I am now. Please make plans to hunt, and share every moment of it with us. Open up to us. We want to hear it. It helps to share. Look at how much I post. We are at risk when we share. Never will everyone agree, and some will staunchly oppose it no matter what we say. Know who you are, and be confident in it, and then it doesn't matter what others think. I've shared very shameful things, some very stupid things or things that made me look not so bright, and occasionally something that might help someone. I am who I am, and it's okay with me. In all things, if we try to respect the feelings of others in the way we say things, we can express about anything. The message still doesn't change; it's just respectfully expressed. Get involved, reach out and share. The future is open to you, fill in the blanks the best you can.
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